Arden & Jacob's Story
From Surviving to Rebuilding: A Couple’s Journey with the Joyana Cara Method
Arden and Jacob, a couple in their early 40s, came to me in what they described as a “last-ditch effort” to save their 14-year marriage. Arden was exhausted, angry, and deeply hurt—questioning whether it was finally time to walk away. Trust was nonexistent after a long period of betrayal.
Eighteen months earlier, Jacob had an affair that shattered their foundation. Arden described her experience as one of “so much lying and betrayal,” while Jacob admitted they had been in “survival mode” ever since.
They had tried it all—individual and couples therapy, alternative healing methods, and even lie detector tests—but nothing created the lasting shift they needed to feel safe together again.
Arden was caught in a cycle of emotional trauma responses, overwhelming triggers, and relentless nightmares. Her pain often erupted as destructive behaviour—breaking items that reminded her of the betrayal. She confessed to contemplating self-harm to manage the intensity. “I just wanted to feel peace,” she said.
Jacob carried intense guilt and shame, calling his actions “unforgivable.” He struggled with a pattern of dishonesty, even as he desperately longed to repair the damage and rebuild his marriage.
A New Way Forward
Over the course of five focused sessions using the Joyana Cara Method, Arden and Jacob were gently guided through the rawness of their experiences. Together, they uncovered unconscious emotional patterns rooted in childhood—and, in their case, even past-life dynamics—that had quietly shaped how they dealt with conflict, connection, and vulnerability.
As those deep-seated patterns were brought into awareness and released, something profound shifted.
The Transformation: What Changed
- A deeper, more compassionate understanding of one another.
- The ability to communicate openly, even when feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable.
- A new sense of mutual support and emotional safety.
- Jacob became more honest—not just with Arden, but also with their children—and felt supported in doing so.
- Arden’s emotional triggers became less intense and less frequent.
- She stopped destructive outbursts, began sleeping more peacefully, and experienced fewer nightmares.
- Both developed stronger boundaries and deeper connections with family, friends, and each other.
- They became more attuned to spiritual practices, presence, and nature.
- Most importantly, they rediscovered hope, clarity, and connection.
In Their Words
Arden:
“This has been the most challenging experience of my life, but if there is any chance of our marriage being successful, this deeper healing is absolutely the way.”
Jacob:
“Before these sessions, I felt we were trying to survive. Now, it feels like actual healing is taking place. I have a much better understanding of Arden’s struggles. I’ve taken these insights and feel I’ve become a more considerate person—and I believe Arden sees that, too.”
Client Reflection:
“Sylvia has blended a number of modalities into a program that goes so far beyond the traditional idea of ‘therapy.’ The energy work she guided us through would be some of the most raw, difficult, and insightful that I have experienced.”